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I’m Tired of Being Alone. Do I “Settle” for a Blue Collar Guy?

August 9, 2012

Wow! What a provocative question! Some of you have probably had a strong reaction already. I can just hear the sisters saying, “I tried that and it didn’t work out; I need someone who is my equal…I can do bad by myself.” OR they may say, “I don’t care if he collects trash as long as he’s good to me.” I can hear the brothers saying, “It’s plenty of good men out here, but sisters are turning their noses up at them, thinking they’re too good…they’re just too demanding!” Personally, I think...

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Can My Spouse Have Friends of the Opposite Sex?

July 27, 2012

I happen to have the best friends in the whole wide world who love to provoke thought and debate about a variety of subjects. One such debate erupted some twenty years ago on the subject of appropriate friendships for your spouse to have, namely as it relates to gender. I, who have had close male friendships since elementary school, was quick to say that it was totally cool with me if my husband had friends of the opposite sex SO LONG as I knew these individuals myself, the vibes are good,...

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Why Should I Have to Tell Him?

July 27, 2012

I’d be oh so rich if I had a dollar for every time someone rhetorically asked in couple’s therapy, “why should I have to tell him/her (with much attitude): what needs to be done around the house; to send me something on Valentine’s Day; to help me with the kids; to give me some cave time; to help me bring in the groceries; to compliment me; to get off the phone; to buy me some flowers; on and on and on…” I used to be one who thought this way many moons ago. I used to think it spoiled the...

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Are You Headed for Divorce?

July 25, 2012

Recently, I have been bombarded with news of so many long-standing, “solid” Christian marriages amongst my friends and associates that are now headed for divorce. Additionally, I think the whole country was shocked by the announcement that Al and Tipper Gore were divorcing after FORTY years of what appeared to be blissful matrimony. Sadly, I recently heard on one of my favorite Christian radio talk shows (Living on the Edge hosted by Chip Ingram) that the statistics for divorce among...

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Can You Ever Really Know Your Man?

July 25, 2012

At one of my recent community forums in Atlanta known as Blue Lights in the Basement where we pick apart a certain topic of the month, the female audience members were stunned to hear outright confirmation of our suspicions that men don’t really WANT to be KNOWN by their spouses or intimate others. Females, of course, are just the opposite (generally speaking). We want our significant others to KNOW US—our fears, hopes, wounds of the past, where we get our hair fixed, our favorite color or...

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To Blind Date or Not To Blind Date

July 25, 2012

I used to be a “professional” match-maker it seemed. I was always thinking of a good match for someone I thought was a desirable young man or woman. Though I haven’t done it in more than a decade, the thought occasionally runs through my mind when I hear someone’s story about the challenges in finding the ONE. One of the reasons I stopped going on blind dates myself (when I was single) and stopped setting others up is that there is so-o-o-o-o much emphasis placed on looks and split-second...

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Tips for Overcoming Panic

July 11, 2012

Deep breathing does wonders to calm anxiety. When inhaling, place one hand on the abdomen and one on the chest. To achieve deep breathing, make sure the hand on the abdomen is rising more than the hand on the chest. If shoulders and chest are rising, and the diaphragm is not, this is NOT deep breathing. Picture someone hyperventilating, and you’ll get the picture of how short breaths contribute to increased anxiety. Once you've taught yourself the difference between deep and shallow breathing,...

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The Best Resources for Renewing Your Mind

July 10, 2012

My job is to help others jumpstart a journey of mental, physical, and spiritual renewal. In so doing, I often direct my clients to quality resources that feed the mind what it has been craving. The old adage certainly applies regarding state of mind: “You are what you eat.” So I often refer my clients to great books and other learning tools in keeping with my practical approach and my desire to make psychological principles understandable and doable in the most expedient of ways. I love the...

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Do I Have Desperation Disorder?

June 10, 2012

Desperation Disorder is not, by the way, a real psychiatric diagnosis. I use it to explain the puzzling behavior of attractive, smart, capable, friendly and likeable women who enter into and maintain relationship with men who dishonor, demean, discourage, drain, deplete, or destroy them. These men may include the unemployed, the addicted, the abusive, the mean-spirited, the adulterer, or the disinterested in anything beyond himself. He adds NOTHING to her life; in fact, he TAKES away from...

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Going Home Again Is Sometimes Hard to Do

June 10, 2012

With the return of warm weather, many are visiting home and relatives for spring breaks, Easter and Memorial Day celebrations, and family reunions with the hope of memorable fun, food, and fellowship. Instead, some are greeted by long-standing issues that resurface and pour a box of Morton’s salt on old wounds. When reuniting with those “who knew you when…,” there’s always the possibility of getting sucked in to performing a certain role expected by family even when that role provokes...

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Good Old-Fashioned Study Skills

June 10, 2012

Today’s students have exciting, technological tools to make learning fun, fast, and flexible. Yet, I’ve noticed a disturbing trend in the bright and exposed minds of capable seniors from “good homes” (whatever that means today) who launch into the world of college. They’re back home before the end of the first or second year, with no intention in the foreseeable future of returning to college.
A number of factors contribute to this phenomenon. For this article, I’ll focus on study skills...

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Mothers Who Lie in Court for their Daughters

May 31, 2012

I was recently aghast to hear two famous television personalities boldly admit before a national audience that they would lie for their daughters in court, one of whom is an attorney. I’ve been even more shocked to see a grandmother actually get caught in lies for her daughter in the recent Casey Anthony murder trial. What??!!!! Is there no concern for what kind of message this sends to the daughter about how to solve problems and face hardships? “Oh what a tangled web we weave when first we...

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Is Your Mental Health on the Backburner?

April 24, 2012

When I tell others that I’m a psychologist, they usually respond with something like, “Oh no, you just analyzed me” as though I have some super powers to read minds and peer into souls at first glance. They also seem to envision me working with individuals in straight jackets with one eye in the middle of their foreheads, who drag one leg and foot behind them. In short, psychology is for the “crazy” or the weird. Oh contraire! While individuals may not brag about close encounters with...

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To Blind Date or Not to Blind Date?

February 21, 2011

I used to be a “professional” match-maker it seemed. I was always thinking of a good match for someone I thought was a desirable young man or woman. Though I haven’t done it in more than a decade, the thought occasionally runs through my mind when I hear someone’s story about the challenges in finding the ONE. One of the reasons I stopped going on blind dates myself (when I was single) and stopped setting others up is that there is so-o-o-o-o much emphasis placed on looks and split-second...

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Are You Headed for Divorce?

February 21, 2011

Recently, I have been bombarded with news of so many long-standing, “solid” Christian marriages amongst my friends and associates that are now headed for divorce. Additionally, I think the whole country was shocked by the announcement that Al and Tipper Gore were divorcing after FORTY years of what appeared to be blissful matrimony. Sadly, I recently heard on one of my favorite Christian radio talk shows (Living on the Edge hosted by Chip Ingram) that the statistics for divorce among...

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Is My Desperation Showing?

August 16, 2010

Are you finding yourself a bit too eager to find THE ONE that it just shows in your every gesture and facial expression and comment/question posed to a member of the opposite sex. A good male friend recently shared with me that in the 12 or so years that he had been single again following his divorce, he’d had only ONE woman to resist his sexual advances on the first date. He then proceeded to share with me how his “rap” worked. It was so-o-o-o transparent that I thought to myself,...

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Exactly How Is It That Good and Grown Folks are to Abstain from Sex Before Marriage?

April 16, 2010

I hosted a forum on gender differences in sexual relationship some months ago that included a segment on celibacy (if you want a copy of the CD, please contact me). I invited a fine brother, a former college athlete, to stand up and give his testimony on how he and his wife waited until their wedding night to KNOW each other, which is how the bible describes sexual intimacy. His standards far exceeded those that I usually recommend and left everyone in the room intrigued, encouraged, inspired,...

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I Just Don't Get It. Is Your Laptop Your Date?

April 16, 2010

Anyone who knows me well knows that I am not a fan of ever-advancing, new and improved technology and the myriad of interruptions it brings into our lives in the name of making things quicker and better. I know most of you will think I am from another galaxy when I tell you that I do not even send or receive text messages. I decided long ago that I could not withstand one more technological intrusion and keep my sanity and focus. After e-mail, instant messages, snail-mail, cell phone messages,...

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Valentine Blues: I’m Tired of Being Alone. Do I “Settle” for a Blue Collar Guy?”

April 16, 2010

Wow! What a provocative question! Some of you have probably already had a strong reaction already. I can just hear the sisters saying, “I tried that and it didn’t work out; I need someone who is my equal…I can do bad by myself.” OR they may be saying, “I don’t care if he collects trash as long as he’s good to me.” I can hear the brothers saying, “It’s plenty of good men out here, but sisters are turning their noses up at them, thinking they’re too good…they’re just too demanding!” Personally, I...

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